Ansleigh Buchanan wrote:
soo...I've taken all your advice to heart

and I've tried a few things...with varied success

still havent quite gotten there, but I feel closer

I think I have ADHD...does anyone else have their brain jumping all over the place during sex or masturbation? It really interferes, and I don't know what else to do.

Also, does your body get really hot when its about to happen? Like hot that happens really quickly?

Uh, errr, um, what ya talking about gal?

Dunno what the prob is, but if your attention wanders, try a little one-handed reading of some good erotic romance novels.  If ya like the paranormal stuff, then I'd recommend Laurell Hamilton.  It certainly gets my wife wound up.

Beatbox Jeebus v2 wrote:
http://sybianrelieffund.blogspot.com

but if i'm diagnosed with sexual dysfunction, then maybe my insurance will foot the bill

Jim Ball wrote:
Uh, errr, um, what ya talking about gal?

Dunno what the prob is, but if your attention wanders, try a little one-handed reading of some good erotic romance novels.  If ya like the paranormal stuff, then I'd recommend Laurell Hamilton.  It certainly gets my wife wound up.

I get distracted. It has nothing to do with how I feel for my bf or how sexy he is or whatever. It can be external stimuli (sirens in the street, the kitten jumping on the bed, etc) or internal (random thoughts, worries, etc).

I doubt my bf would feel that great with me reading a book during.

Ansleigh Buchanan wrote:

I get distracted. It has nothing to do with how I feel for my bf or how sexy he is or whatever. It can be external stimuli (sirens in the street, the kitten jumping on the bed, etc) or internal (random thoughts, worries, etc).

I doubt my bf would feel that great with me reading a book during.

Well, you did mention masturbation.  Get that under control and then work on the partner thing.

External distractions can be a problem for all of us.  Been there, done that.  Can't play with the TV on!

  If you are thinking about your grocery list or doing laundry while your partner is working away, then I might suggest that perhaps he needs to work on his technique.  He should be interested in your pleasure and needs and not just let you go along for the ride.  He should be able to completely make you unable to think of anything except what he is doing to you.

Jim Ball wrote:
If you are thinking about your grocery list or doing laundry while your partner is working away, then I might suggest that perhaps he needs to work on his technique.  He should be interested in your pleasure and needs and not just let you go along for the ride.  He should be able to completely make you unable to think of anything except what he is doing to you.

I wouldnt be so quick to put it all on him. He cares and does things to please me. I just cant seem to focus. Ever. On anything.

richard boswell wrote:
have you tried warming up longer ...

like pornographic literature ...

a couple of hours getting really horny might help ...

couldn't hurt ...

r

hmm...i could try that. ive never read a romance novel. i cant handle anything too cheesy and im not all into goth or the supernatural

anything to recommend

cheshire kat wrote:
porn is the only thing that keeps me entertained long enough to masturbate

yaaay porn

even with porn on the 42" plasma, i cant stay focused

boo

Ansleigh Buchanan wrote:

even with porn on the 42" plasma, i cant stay focused

boo

I bet I could get your plumbing working.

Jim Ball wrote:
If you have trouble staying focused in other parts of your life, then you may have a real attention disorder.  See a doctor.

If nothing else, try some yoga and meditation classes and learn to focus your mind.

we're talking about orgasms here, not life changing strategies! gosh

Jim Ball wrote:
If you have trouble staying focused in other parts of your life, then you may have a real attention disorder.  See a doctor.

If nothing else, try some yoga and meditation classes and learn to focus your mind.

could I have really made it all the way to med school with untreated ADHD?

I  dont want to get addicted to adderol...

richard boswell wrote:
anne rice's beauty series never failed to get my attention ...

even when i wish it hadn't ...

r

its not about vampires is it?

Ansleigh Buchanan wrote:
still havent quite gotten there, but I feel closer

A few shots of Jack Daniels should help. My girlfriend swears it increases her sensitivity 'down there' to the point of making it impossible to think of anything else!

Frame In A Million wrote:
A few shots of Jack Daniels should help. My girlfriend swears it increases her sensitivity 'down there' to the point of making it impossible to think of anything else!

I'm a beer connisseuse, but I dont really drink for the sake of getting jacked up. Its a good concept though, and I hadnt thought about looking into aphrodisiac foods and herbs and whatnot.

cheshire kat wrote:

we're talking about orgasms here, not life changing strategies! gosh

She mentioned ADHD in her first post.  Nothing really life changing about some meditation classes.   OTOH, if she learns to orgasm regularly, either by her own hand or with her partner, then that could certainly be considered life changing.

Ansleigh Buchanan wrote:

its not about vampires is it?

Model Sarah wrote:
If you havent ever orgasmed during masturbation you never will.

Really, all joking aside, I really feel horriable for you.

DogeatDog84 wrote:

Really, all joking aside, I really feel horriable for you.

Sarcasm much?

Model Sarah wrote:
If you havent ever orgasmed during masturbation you never will.

for some people it can take awhile to get used to.

Model Sarah wrote:

Sarcasm much?

I was being dead serious.  I mean, i have trouble during sex but I always did so well masterbating that I feel the pros outway the cons

Sharon Thornhill wrote:

for some people it can take awhile to get used to.

I was being mostly sarcastic but that is true for the most part.

If you dont know your own body it can be very difficult to achieve this.

DogeatDog84 wrote:

I was being dead serious.  I mean, i have trouble during sex but I always did so well masterbating that I feel the pros outway the cons

No I was being sarcastic.

I always feel that knowing your own body is the first step.

Beatbox Jeebus v2 wrote:
Try buttsechs

Dunno if she'll be able to orgasm that way, but I doubt seriously if her attention would wander!

Jim Ball wrote:

Dunno if she'll be able to orgasm that way, but I doubt seriously if her attention would wander!

I've seen it work.... depends on the position and then she might need to manually help herself out.

Model Sarah wrote:
No I was being sarcastic.

I always feel that knowing your own body is the first step.

yeah, i think i skipped a few steps ahead at first...but now ive returned to square one

i dont even wanna pressure my bf until i figure out myself first

Ansleigh Buchanan wrote:
Also, does your body get really hot when its about to happen? Like hot that happens really quickly?

yes

Ansleigh Buchanan wrote:

yeah, i think i skipped a few steps ahead at first...but now ive returned to square one

i dont even wanna pressure my bf until i figure out myself first

That is the best way honestly.

Model Sarah wrote:

That is the best way honestly.

Listen to Sarah... or buttsechs... or both

The Thorny Rose wrote:
Salad?

tossing?