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the neverending saga of Ansleigh's orgasm
Beatbox Jeebus v2 wrote: anal is painful, unnatural, and puts your body at risk for ALL SORTS of scary things Sep 18 07 08:35 pm Link even though I a, a wiseass I hve some serious questions how long have you been active for by yourself? how long have you been active for with a partner? Sep 18 07 08:37 pm Link Ansleigh Buchanan wrote: Maybe you are putting WAAAYYYYYY too much pressure on yourself with a huge expectation that you MUST have an orgasm... Sep 18 07 08:39 pm Link Frog516 wrote: by myself...i dont practice regularly, maybe once or twice a month Sep 18 07 08:41 pm Link Ansleigh Buchanan wrote: and never once? even when you fisrt started? Sep 18 07 08:41 pm Link Frog516 wrote: and never once? even when you fisrt started? no. i learned in class today that this can be situational, temporary, or lifelong Sep 18 07 08:43 pm Link Ansleigh Buchanan wrote: First, the anus in females too has tremendous amount of nerve endings... and it's certainly not there to enjoy defecation. Sep 18 07 08:44 pm Link Hmmm,,,,,,,when I take my dog to dog training/obedience classes, they teach that a good way to keep him focused on me is to offer him treats and praise him for focusing only on you, regardless of distraction.... I wonder if,,,,,,,hmm,,, you like chocolate, I assume?  Sep 18 07 08:45 pm Link udor wrote: nah, its not a personal belief...and I never thought anything bad about it until I worked at a hospital when I was 22 Sep 18 07 08:49 pm Link udor wrote: I find that really condescending by the way. Lets just say what you "see" is merely your assumption and an incorrect one at that Sep 18 07 08:56 pm Link I appreciate all the advice...I'll check in later and update. For now, more suggestions to try. Sep 18 07 09:01 pm Link maybe because it is an "end" hence lots of nerve endings. r udor wrote: Sep 18 07 09:02 pm Link Are you fucking serious? Sep 18 07 09:07 pm Link Get you pussy ate... thats all you need to know. Sep 18 07 09:07 pm Link udor wrote: Ansleigh Buchanan wrote: Sorry Ansleigh; Sep 18 07 09:42 pm Link You are trying waaaay too hard. Quit worrying about it and just let yourself go. What happens happens. Sep 18 07 09:50 pm Link The best result from women I have known that hadn't experienced an orgasm before was 1. Relax. The goal is to enjoy what you're doing, not stress about reaching an orgasm. 2. Explore yourself. Get familiar with all your parts and how you can make yourself feel with your touches. 3. Set aside your evening, take a long shower or bath, relax, and explore. 4. Relax. Chasing your orgasm is like chasing a partner in a relationship. The more you force it, the less likely it is to happen. Relax and take the pressure off yourself and it will come to you. Sep 18 07 10:25 pm Link Model Sarah wrote: Thats a total crock. Sep 18 07 10:29 pm Link Ansleigh Buchanan wrote: You'd be surprised how many women can get off from buttsex. Sep 18 07 10:32 pm Link Is there a sign up sheet or something? Sep 18 07 10:33 pm Link oh, and I've never had any of those issues you described from doing that. Sep 18 07 10:33 pm Link udor wrote: udor wrote: Sorry Ansleigh; Just eat it, Udo. Sep 18 07 10:33 pm Link Get a vibrator. or 2. or 3.... Sep 18 07 11:33 pm Link Ansleigh Buchanan wrote: wrong, wrong and wrong. Sep 19 07 12:17 am Link udor wrote: agreed Sep 19 07 12:18 am Link Ansleigh Buchanan wrote: you think too much. Sep 19 07 12:20 am Link Ansleigh Buchanan wrote: No, it's about boys crawling around with horsetails crammed up their pooper. Sep 19 07 12:21 am Link AdamtheJohnson wrote: Ha! I love MM! Sep 22 07 06:42 pm Link I was going to give one of my typical smartass replies to this. Then I actually read the whole things and started to really feel bad for you. The ADHD thing might be true. If your mind is THAT active and wanders so much, it's going to be difficult to climax. The cliche that "the mind is the most sensetive sex organ" is totally true. My suggestion is twofold. 1 - Don't worry about having an orgasm. Trying so hard to have one could easily make you psyche yourself into NOT having one. 2 - Try to focus on the task at hand. Enjoy it. Stay in the moment. But most of all, RELAX. When your mind starts to wander to different things, gently strrer your brain back to the sex. Don't get mad at yourself. Don't berate yourself. Just get back on track and say, "Okay. Mind wandered. No big deal. Let's get back to enjoying this..." Cool? Remember - enjoy the moment. Stay focused on the moment. Don't worry about the climax. Sep 22 07 07:02 pm Link The majority of women require direct clitoral stimuli in order to achieve orgasm. The majority of these women have never had an orgasm during sex because the clitoris doesn't get touched at all. Sometimes it's the way e're physically put together down there. There's no logical way that the clitoris will come into contact with anything down there. So if I were you, I would wait on the sex thing, because there's plenty of us out there who can knock one out that'll curl your hair in less than a minute, but still can't have a hands-free clitoral orgasm during sex. As far as masturbation goes, I have found that a half a glass of wine kickstarts things a bit because it increases circulation and blah blah blah. Erotic lit is great; better than porn in a lot of ways because you can use your imagination. Fantasizing is great too. If you're having trouble focusing on what you're doing despite being fully aroused, you ought to look into meditation first, then move on tho masturbation. One surefire way that I found is Ye Olde Bathtub Faucet. Yeah, I said it. Make sure you won't scald or freeze your bits, get under there, throw your legs up and have at it. Above all I wish you luck, and try to stay patient, positive and optomistic about it, but don't even for one second think that you're alone in this, because you're not.  Sep 22 07 07:28 pm Link Some women climax with great ease, others climax with great concentration and rapid stimulation, still others need whips and chains... I knew a woman who had to masturbate during intercourse because her clitoris was sort of "mis-placed". She could only climax once, and only SHE knew how it was done. Others are hair triggered. Vive la difference! There is a technique in intercourse that you will never see in porn flicks because the average viewer wants to see the old in-and-out (boring!). If a man stays close..... really close.... and moves very slowly at first, then more and more quickly.... well, let's just say it works 9/10 of the time. Sep 22 07 08:34 pm Link Ansleigh Buchanan wrote: George Costanza found that eating a pastrami sandwich and watching sports during sex was a great aphrodisiac. Sep 22 07 09:12 pm Link Art Photography Ottawa wrote: I've been using Seinfeld's "swirl" technique at the end. It's an option. I feel the swirl is a great capper. Some people use the pinch, which I find a little presumptuous. Sep 22 07 09:57 pm Link Jeffrey Engel wrote: was there a knuckle involved? lol Sep 23 07 12:20 am Link i am continually grateful for the input )Sep 23 07 12:22 am Link Ansleigh Buchanan wrote: No clue here either, but from experience, women that have O's anally, have much bigger O's that way - go figure Sep 23 07 12:39 am Link You have a PM Ansleigh!!  Sep 23 07 12:39 am Link by the way, when i said "unnatural" it wasnt a MORAL statement i just meant that its not what we're physiologically designed for...making it a bit problematic Sep 23 07 12:48 am Link Ansleigh Buchanan wrote: Human's aren't physiologically designed for sitting at computers, staring at monitors and typing on keyboards, either. Sep 23 07 01:04 am Link Dave Wright Photo SF wrote: yeah, well i'll take carpal tunnel over anal abcess any day Sep 23 07 01:05 am Link |
